I’ve dreamed about creating this space for many years, but as a recovering perfectionist, I believed that everything needed to be just right before it was good enough to share. But I’ve finally realized that perfection is a myth, and I have a hell of a lot to say. I have a deep passion for connecting with others, and I would be doing a disservice to anyone who my message might resonate with if I continue to keep it to myself. So here I am, imperfections and all.

My mission is to help women overcome the feelings of insecurity about their body that diminish their self worth and submit them to a life of striving for physical perfection.

As women, I believe that much of our confidence comes from feeling satisfied with our appearance. And while there is certainly no shame in wanting to improve that image, there is a misconception among many that achieving some aesthetic ideal will lead to a greater sense of happiness, fulfillment, and self love.

I can empathize because these same feelings were the impetus for me to begin exercising obsessively while strictly controlling my diet at a young age. I blindly followed the asinine advice I found in fitness magazines, devoting the majority of my mental and physical energy to attaining the lean and muscular physique that I desired. My entire sense of self worth was tied to how I looked, and I believed that if I could develop a body that resembled that of a fitness cover model then I would be worthy of love and respect.

For years my life revolved around my workouts, the food I ate (or didn’t), and trying compulsively to control the number on the scale. In the process, I missed out on life changing experiences, compromised valuable relationships, and did damage to my health that I am still paying for to this day.

My wake up call came in the form of a life altering event that shook me to my core and completely changed the trajectory of my life. It was one that required deep self reflection while taking ownership of how my choices impacted not only myself but those I loved.

While I can certainly say that I have regrets, reflecting on my mistakes and the resulting consequences helped me to abandon those habits and the negative mindset that fueled them.

These days, I am focused more on developing my strength, and that has given me a sense a confidence that being excessively lean never could. It has allowed me to become independent, resilient, and empowered to show up in the world exactly how I choose.

That isn’t to say that I don’t still desire to improve my physique. In fact, I thrive on training in a way that allows for that. The difference now is that I can still like myself while I strive to make those changes. And since my worthiness is no longer dependent on being completely satisfied with my reflection in the mirror, I am able to enjoy the process rather than being consumed by it.

I wish more women knew how liberating this shift in mindset can be, and it is why I am so passionate about spreading the message that gaining strength while letting go of the self sabotage is the vehicle to true transformation.

Achieving physical feats that you never thought were possible allows you to detach from the need to seek external validation in order to feel confident and fulfilled. You will build the internal conviction to believe that you can accomplish whatever you desire, and that confidence-competency loop will carry over into every aspect of your life. It will allow you to push past the mental barriers that hold you back so that you can live your purpose and become your best self.

I learned these lessons the hard way, and I hope that you will join me as I share my struggles, so that you can find peace in knowing that you are not alone in yours. Along the way, I want to give you the information and tools necessary to overcome whatever is holding you back from being the person you know you can be.